Libre
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- Jul 29, 2007
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To limpalong - you asked a serious question and got very little in the way of sound advice. Telling the young man gfy, while sounding very funny here on a forum, or in an anecdote in the locker room, is actually horrible advice. You're in your 70's, you said. Haven't you run into people before, with whom you'd rather avoid certain discussions, but find they are sometimes unavoidable? This is about 75% of the people I run into. Do I tell them to g f themselves? Of course not. You owe it to your fellow man to be decent to them as long as they're not insufferable.
So limpalong, if you want to cross a line that once crossed, there is no way back - tell him put a sock it it or just tell him you're not interested in this line of discussion, thank you. But if you want to continue to get along with this fellow - or any other person - you nod your head politely, endure their tales and advice, tell them "how interesting!" or whatever for a moment, then you excuse yourself and go about your business. I dunno, maybe give him half an ear? Sometimes, even idiots have something useful to impart.
You figure out in life who you want to get closer to, who are fine at arms length, and who to run away from. Very important to keep these categories straight. Try to keep people that you associate with in one of the first two categories. He's the pro/manager at your course. You said you like the man. Don't alienate him to have a good locker room anecdote. You'll regret it. When he asks about your golf, because maybe he feels it's his job, or he just wants to converse with you, you can simply tell him that you're doing the best you can, as always.
It takes patience to maintain friendships, and you have to know that your friends have to be equally patient, to maintain a relationship with you.
So limpalong, if you want to cross a line that once crossed, there is no way back - tell him put a sock it it or just tell him you're not interested in this line of discussion, thank you. But if you want to continue to get along with this fellow - or any other person - you nod your head politely, endure their tales and advice, tell them "how interesting!" or whatever for a moment, then you excuse yourself and go about your business. I dunno, maybe give him half an ear? Sometimes, even idiots have something useful to impart.
You figure out in life who you want to get closer to, who are fine at arms length, and who to run away from. Very important to keep these categories straight. Try to keep people that you associate with in one of the first two categories. He's the pro/manager at your course. You said you like the man. Don't alienate him to have a good locker room anecdote. You'll regret it. When he asks about your golf, because maybe he feels it's his job, or he just wants to converse with you, you can simply tell him that you're doing the best you can, as always.
It takes patience to maintain friendships, and you have to know that your friends have to be equally patient, to maintain a relationship with you.
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