I know how death can tear a family apart. When my mom died, my sister & brother were like sharks smelling blood in the water. I had to deal with getting my mom home...she died out of state, setting up the funeral, etc. Meanwhile they were ransacking one of her houses..she owned 2. In the end it got very ugly & I have just started to speak to my sister after 12 years. My brother can kiss my ass, haven't spoken to him since & have zero desire to do so.